"No one would choose a friend being provided to all other things in the world, " Aristotle once said. However, even by sacrificing everything in the world, the situation is the only child in the family will not change. Brothers and sisters can be annoying, teasing, warts' and just really means, from time to time. More to them is better than being alone, is not it? crash responsibilities of parents after a certain age, more family responsibilities and that, loneliness Of course, are just some of the things that only a child can be facing in the future.
Two women, Yvonne Pok and Ann Miller, will speak on how growing up without siblings was and how it has an effect on the relationship shared with parents.
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Yvonne Pok, 24, graduate, remembers his childhood as very lonely. She prays that clearly stereotypical thought it was just a child is usually given much attention and spoiled rotten. "It has never been that way for me. Instead, I had a lot of expectations to meet, and it has become stressful, especially in my teens, " recalls Yvonne. To compensate for her loneliness, Yvonne makes an imaginary friend, who was the same age, which gradually fell into his imaginary twin sister. I remember in search of this imaginary sister and reading stories to her. Yvonne has already given up the idea of ever having had a sister. Her understanding of her parents' choice has only one child because they are workaholics. "My parents were a workaholic in this way before my birth and after my birth! And as bizarre as it may be, 24 years has scrambled the past and they are still the same workaholics!" Yvonne says with a sigh.
for Ann Miller, 25, a church worker, the only child was the unexpected appearance when her older brother died in 1980. She grew up without knowing her older brother, but the story of her brother, filtered through her parents and relatives. "It was hard because I was not really an only child. I had a brother. I had my toys and clothes to remind me that was around before me knowing I had a brother, and not being able to ever meet him, has to be harder than no nurse at all, "laments Ann. Ann also reminded that no amount of attention could feel the loneliness, especially when I see relatives and friends to strengthen their relationships with their brothers and sisters.
Both women remember growing up to be pretty quiet. As children, both shy and never said much. "I remember holding my thoughts and feelings buried in me, because I felt my parents would want to hear, and I really want my friends to know about them. I think my sister would have given me an outlet to unleash all rather unhealthily to live with them, " Yvonne thinks. For Ann, setting most of her thoughts on the ongoing quarantine is almost like therapy. "I could see in my mind a place 'whenever I wanted. I felt safer just leaving them in a dark corner of my mind. But of course, has a sister would be like a housewife for the quarantine ward, where only my brother, sister and I would be allowed to "Ann smiled.
life just a kid
When it comes to the issue of sharing while growing up, both women seem to have different opinions about it. For Yvonne, sharing came naturally, because he had many relatives whom she will meet during the festive period. Eager to share her toys, Yvonne remembers leaving her cousins to play with everything, even if they have a new toy. "My mother is a great family gave me lots of opportunities to practice sharing my skills, " laughs Yvonne. For Ann, on the other hand, sharing was not something she enjoyed. "I think I've grown too attached to the thought that everything was mine and well probably be selfish as a child because of that, " muses Ann.
Yvonne and Ann share a very close relationship with parents today feel that the perhaps the only child in a family that has strengthened the bond. Both women agree that the only child has taught them responsibility, independence and maturity. So, maybe the only child not as disastrous as it is to be cut. After all, as well as Henry Rollins, U.S. rock singer, once said: "Loneliness adds beauty life. puts a special burn on sunsets and makes night air smell better ".
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