Remember Freud's drawing of a bearded old man with a "hidden" nude women, and the title "What is the mind of man"? Judging from my experience with men, which stretches from coaching men to have sex, a leading training relationship with his wife, which is part of the international community of men, yes, of course, one to me, it is obvious that there is a lot more on men's minds when comes to sex, but a beautiful young woman in Freud's view. As a fact, there are so many conflicting voices at play in the human mind that it can be very difficult to sort out which voice to listen if any of them.
In this article I will share what I find are the dominant voices of men think about sex and where they come from. And though it may sound amusing to talk about the "voices" in the mind of man, make no mistake, this is rare. Often, it is a source of tremendous pain, shame, embarrassment, anger, shame, and guilt, and in fact is the unique kind of madness.
Imagine a triangle. In the center stands a man trying to make sense of his sexuality, trying to determine where it stands. Each of the three points on the triangle's voice beckoning him with his response to his task. One voice was a warning, others lures, and the third was strong at first, but then later it is difficult to hear. In his attempt to go in three different directions at once, he tears apart. This is tearing apart what we have seen in men as sexual or "overdrive", for example, sex addiction, using prostitutes, or have questions, or sexual "underdrive", which can be impotence, premature ejaculation, lack of sexual desire, or feeling like a small boy sex. Let's look at these voices:
the first voice says: "Sex is immoral, dirty and dangerous". From the second child was born, his genitals, and finished safely hidden behind the diapers. If he manages to find its way through the layers and really feel his genitals, there's bound to follow the "NO", or perhaps only his hand was gently withdrawn. He will hear when he grows a little older so it's not appropriate to touch "down there", and "those things" should be kept private. Come puberty, "the story about the dangers, " begins: You can get sexually transmitted diseases, dying of AIDS, to make a girl pregnant, have abortions, or become a parent, either way is terrible. Some boys will have religious themes added that not only makes all dangerous, and dirty, sinful and potential ticket to hell. (For the record, I am a 12-year-old boy. the level of fear with regard to sex promotes the adults around these children is truly mind-blowing)
another voice says: "Sex is what real men do not Yeah, I'm stuuuud!" That voice was fueled by movies, magazines, TV, commercials, other boys, and sometimes mom and dad as well. This voice proclaims images that we all learned watching several million hours of artificial reality of films and TV. the hero always "scores" of women, he does not? He always ends up in bed with her. He always knows exactly what to do, what to say when I say this, but when it shut with a swooning kiss. He is still slim and handsome, with "6-pack" on the belly (my son will sometimes ask me, blue in the face of the strain: "Dad, hnngh, see my 6-pack, hnnnggh to see it?") He is well educated and will make all female eyes in the room turned their way. He was a kid! That voice is strengthened by cheering fellow insecure young man such as eggs to each other and try to prove themselves.
Now, the third voice is different in nature, in which he was a boy since birth. From time to time it is very audible, for example, around puberty, but often do not speak as loud as the other two votes. This is more of a "felt" the voice. It is the voice of our inherent sexual violence, a call from somewhere in the mystical sense, no doubt, when the force is awakening. She whispers to us intense pleasure, the never-ending delight, savoring the fruits of the earth and the human body. She sings lyrical songs in our inner ear and has the power to draw alluring siren song. Even before we have language, we intuitively want to see where this is leading us. No every child is planned to go masturbate. His hand just automatically drawn to the holiday on his genitals (Have you ever seen the boys and girls who are in diapers, which were allowed to explore? They often touch themselves with obscene pleasure ).
It was a miracle, with the three voices vying for his attention and pulls on him, the boy grows into a man totally confused about your sexuality?
It is from this confusion and madness that the majority of all men's pain, shame, guilt, performance anxiety, addiction, or avoidance of sex arise. This is madness, and we all get huge amounts of it. Many people never get rid of him, all people have the ability to do so. It takes conscious effort, certainly, but with some help it's totally doable. And the rewards are endless. prize is nothing less than full access to the power God has given us through the huge force of sexual energy. From there, we are truly unstoppable.
So the people, regardless of where you will find in your sex life, now, take the first step. Call me for an informal chat - strictly confidential -. and we'll point you in the right direction
Tidak ada komentar:
Posting Komentar