What would you do if you see someone you know is parenting the explosive child? Would you offer to help them in any way, or you can do your best to avoid them? It might depend on age and other factors. I know for myself that it would depend on how old I was at that time. When I was a teenager, I would more than likely run for the hills. What if someone you do not know, but obviously needs help?
How would you know if it is appropriate to do or not? Much has been made a natural instinct. people judge the overall look, mood and body language. It is natural though. This is the human element otherwise known as human nature. These are tough issues and sensitive too, when considering the social etiquette.
If someone you know is parenting the explosive child, it would not be at all out of line if you offer to help them occasionally. That does not mean that you will be alone with that tough with a little child. This may be a million different other things. This is just one of those polite society misunderstandings that many people naturally gravitate away from their parents fight. It should not be this way, not everyone is like that. People do not have to be so distant, so aloof, or uninvolved.
There is a popular television program called "What would you do?" on ABC, where they put on a variety of social experiments, a film to the public. Simple things like watching a child standing on a busy sidewalk in the middle of major metropolitan city all alone and then see how things turn out. Seeing what the public or individuals will do. This assumption is amazing really. It is very fun and insightful at an alarming way.
Now, in this case, where it stood in toddlers busy city sidewalk All alone, one child stood for four hours, and nobody even noticed! Not on a person for four hours. One of the findings in this very hands on approach to research, was to have a lot to do with lack of eye level and making eye contact. The child was standing on four hours at the end was already a second child, who was riding along on a scooter. You could see him make eye contact almost immediately through the eyes of the camera. They were about the same height, you are going and he was more apt to notice and he warned his mother.
There is another social experiment recently done mimics real-life incident from his mother, who was fed up of her explosive children. Her children were constantly fighting and arguing in the car when he was driving. The Westchester County, New York mother made headlines when he stopped her car, and she can get out and walk the rest of the way home. She did it to prove a point and make them accountable.
I'm all for parents doing things his way, but left them all alone!
to me that is just crazy. Apparently, it seems a little off and many others, as well as all the publicity the incident received. Woman charged with child endangerment, but then later all the charges were dropped. This has sent many people straight to their message boards of elections. Some use phones and other computers are warned journalists with your opinions. Charging blogs, e-mails, forums, news, and centers with all the comments about it.
After the show, "What would you do?" The scene in many different places and in different ways. interesting results were presented in great detail. For example, the way the mother and children dressed in the public react in very different ways. If the mother and children were in a normal working class, look, people stepped in and defended the children immediately. It was almost instantaneous.
Interestingly, the same group of the same experiment again, word for word and at the same place, only this time he made more in a rich look, as if they were rich people. Nobody, not one person intervened. We should always get involved, regardless of looks or social class. One good thing about us, even though most of them respond quickly to out right abuse or violence.
we all seem to be involved if someone suspects abuse. We seem to be up to par on this, but what if you or someone you know, parenting is child explosive? Many simply ignore it, but there are those out there that offer help. It is not too out of line to offer assistance.
In fact, someone offered me help once the stores and it is one of the reasons why I'm writing this. At first I thought it was an employee of the store, but it quickly became clear that was not the case. It was an incredibly nice gesture and appreciated.
Of course, we must also take into account that there are limits to what we do, should do and what is expected of us. If you see what others are experiencing trouble that we have some familiarity with, then there is no reason that we should share and offer some help occasionally. If we all just do a little extra effort to help others we can all end up feeling better about themselves and for the right reasons.
Well, here is a similar premise. We always tend to judge people by the fact we do it because it makes us feel better about themselves. We all do it though some more than others do. It is not right, but it's human nature. We are also very influenced by the perception and appearance. We should make an effort to look past this, to stop our thoughts too critical of each other and try to appreciate our differences as long as they are harmless in nature.
One thing that strikes me about this whole thought process is those children who are 'better' is really no better or worse than children who are presented as the average working family member. Kids are kids no matter what and people are people too. We must realize that there is no other way to avoid this human nature, but through a strong, conscious effort.
We all need to try to go the extra mile when we can. It's a tough world, but that does not mean that we are all rough around the edges. We should try to see things from an objective point of view. It is difficult for sure but it may not always be. It is a choice you make all on your own, but affects all. Have you ever heard of this karmic belief that if not enough nice things will eventually come back to you and that someone will do something nice for you.
Well, if you or someone you know is parenting the explosive child, then you may could assistance. You never know, unless you and it's a personal choice. The best way to look at it this is as if you were in your shoes. One thing is certain it would not hurt to offer. how many others see it as helping children, some see it as helping their parents, and many others see it, those who also see a better world, to see how to help yourself.
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